If the game mechanic allows it, then it will happen. The answer is not to allow it to still happen but blame the homestead owner because he chose a piece of land that fancied him. The answer is to change the game mechanics so this cannot happen.
Why the F would i want to play the game if my playstyle accounts for nothing in this game and any 10yo griefer with 4 friends can drop a totem next to mine, fence me in, wait till i disband and then keep my architecture or destroy it all and reclaim all the resourses in the building structures i made. When resourses are mega scarce this might even be a good tactic just to collect nails, timber etc?